By Naomi Salami

There’s this belief that a woman’s heart is a deep ocean of secrets. Some people even  liken it to a vault with many locks. Consequently, many men find it hard to know what their woman actually wants or how to please her. They sometimes end up planning elaborate and complex gestures, while some women may appreciate these gestures, they pass as a turn off for some others. But some love experts believe that simplicity sometimes does the trick.

These seven simple keys below, according to experts, open the vista to warming your way into your woman’s heart.

1. Listening more

You’ve probably heard the expression, “You don’t listen to me,” which is enough to break off a relationship. The situation can turn from ice cold to raging hot in an instant. Women  typically express their thoughts as well asbeing intuitive. You need to pay attention to even the slightest detail of what is being discussed with you and  I don’t just mean nodding in agreement with everything she says. It’s best to assume that once a woman realises you paid attention to every detail she gave you, her affection for you will grow even more, or if you two aren’t already a couple, you might as well be as she will immediately consider you as a potential spouse.

2. Respect

How you treat a woman, says much about your character. Now, this point shouldn’t just be talking to the men, as respect should work both ways, but since our focus today is our ladies, we will stick to that. Showing respect to your woman goes a long way; your respect assures her that you value her opinion, thoughts and feelings and this increases her self-esteem. And believe me, confidence is a very attractive trait in a woman.

3. Surprise gifts

Don’t get me wrong; not all women are vain, but it doesn’t hurt to occasionally surprise her with small gifts. Gifts should be given on everyday occasions as well as special occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. The gift is expressing that “no matter what time of day it is, you’re always on your mind”. Although she may appear too cool for you to notice, it instantly melts the heart.

4. Quality time

Building a deep emotional connection requires making time for one another and planning activities together. Even if your calendar may be full, making time for the two of you to spend time together is the best way to show someone that you care. You never know what you could learn about her. Find activities that you both enjoy and schedule time for them frequently.

5. Spontaneous compliments

Don’t be restricted to only telling her she looks good when she asks. Randomly compliment her on her looks, hair or any other trait that she may not seem to mind. Random “I love yous” are always the sweetest as they thaw a frozen heart. Making her feel that she’s the only one that matters to you no matter the situation. Ladies, this point shouldn’t just be for the men, though they don’t seem to admit it, but they love being complimented as well. It’s a universal love language for both genders.

6. Helping out around the house

In the modern era, this is a trend that is gradually becoming more prevalent. Some men, however, are unaware of just how far this seemingly insignificant act can go. Although some women like keeping up with household duties, helping them in any small manner can help to relieve some of their workloads. She needs your help, no matter how little you do, and this is a gesture that melts a lady’s heart. Be honest with yourself: When was the last time you assisted with the cleanup of the house or the dishes in the sink? Don’t just sit and say, “She has everything covered.” Instead, ask: “Can I assist you with this today?”

7. Physical touch

This can be simple things like hand-holding, forehead kisses and hugs. This is like emotional foreplay especially when done spontaneously. Research has shown that hand-holding releases oxytocin, a neurotransmitter that gives you that feel-good buzz. Shows of affection like these also boost intimacy, so be sure to normalise doing them often.

Adapted from LivelyStones Relationship Blog

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