This headline probably made most women detest this article piece before reading it completely. An action I don’t blame them for because they know how true it is. As a woman myself, I get how overprotective we can be of our partners especially when we end up with a drop-dead handsome partner; our insecurities skyrocket and we believe he’s going to cheat on us the moment he leaves our sights.

I know how difficult it must be to fully trust your man, after getting served breakfast (heartbreaks) multiple times, you want to fully secure him, and you end up resorting to putting barbed wires around him. My sister, don’t let your insecurities ruin a perfectly good relationship.

When you decide to secretly check his phone, insult and accuse him in front of his friends, or criticise his career choice, you ruin your relationship with your own hands. This will eventually lead to you breaking one of the strong pillars of a relationship, RESPECT. Individual privacy is a person’s right to control access to private information.

If you found out that your partner does cheat on you with another woman, what’s next? Do you still want to be in a full-of-doubt relationship or leave him?

However, here are the reasons why you should not look through your partner’s phone:

 Reason 1: Hard to cut off

Mobile phone privacy in a relationship is of utmost importance. No matter what the devil tells you or your friends advise you, read this carefully, “do not give in to temptation.” Whether to trust or not to trust is a hard question. But in the end, you need faith to keep loving someone. That way, you can find inner peace and be happy in a long-term relationship.

If you’re completely sure that you’re strong enough to move on after finding out about his infidelities, go ahead, and never see him for the rest of your life. Unfortunately, in most cheating cases caught on a partner’s phone, it hardly leads to a breakup/divorce but a shattered heart and a broken relationship.

Let me give you a typical example of this instance. A woman reported a case on the Nairaland platform on the 2^nd of March, 2018. She talked about how she hadn’t checked her husband’s phone in six years of marriage, but on a fateful Monday, was forced to use her husband’s phone to call her mum because she ran out of airtime. She discovered that he was receiving so many messages on his phone and was distracted by the vibration. She decided to drop the call and check the messages, only for her to discover the messages were from a lady called Helen and the message read: “Here is our baby, the surgery was successful, thank u my love for the money and care, I will love you till the end of this world.” The messages were sent along with pictures of a baby. The husband saw she had read the message and took the phone from her and hasn’t given an explanation ever since. The woman was left to ponder in thought and live silently in her pain.

Catching him texting with other girls is not convincing enough to confront him. However, the tragedy begins from here when the woman keeps criticising and reminding her partner about how he cheated on her. Women forgive but never forget. For the man, a good man may feel guilty as he is now the reason they are not happy anymore. Then he might become desperate and distant himself from his partner.

 Reason 2: Nothing suspicious on his phone

In case you go through your boyfriend’s phone and get nothing, how would you respond once he catches you sneakily checking his personal stuff?

No need to say. That is one of the reasons why you should never look at your partner’s phone. An alpha male’s instinct never let him be under control. With the loss of basic phone privacy in a relationship, what he sees in the relationship is a lack of trust and disrespect.

He’s not your kid. He’s the one you chose among others to be your only potential partner for a long-term commitment. He doesn’t deserve to be interrogated and spied on like a criminal.

 Reason 3: Being insecure is not s3xy

The final reason cell phone privacy in a relationship is important and why you should never spy on your partner’s phone is it will make you feel more insecure. You may be afraid to lose him, afraid to be cheated on, which makes you less attractive than anyone as you lose your confidence. The more insecure you are, the more you push him closer to other women.

Intuition often leads us to make informed decisions. So, if your man has his eyes on other girls, you might know it right away without checking his phone. In most cases, the relationship goes bad when the woman chooses to track her man’s phone and disrupts the mobile phone privacy in a relationship.

Be confident, be beautiful, because when a man is sincerely in love, he will never let you be one of his options.

Adapted from Livelystones Relationship.

Meiza Nigeria